
A few years ago, I looked at Oprah’s website and read the summary of a show she did on computer games. (I’ve never actually “seen” one of her shows on television, but I’ve read about the shows on her site. Don’t ask… it’s too complicated to explain.) She was asking parents what they felt about their children playing computer games. Did gaming create aggressive or antisocial behaviour? Was there any redeeming behaviour that could be associated with this form of entertainment?
The only part of the show that I remember was a father saying his wife’s attitude of gaming being a complete waste of time, and Oprah and the audience’s somewhat sanctimonious rejection of the possibility that gaming might even encourage communication, was, in his opinion very wrong. He went on to explain that this whole women ritual of sitting down at a table with a nice cup of coffee and chatting about all-and-everything-in-between, might be fine for some, but for a lot of guys it just doesn’t work that way. He went on the recall all the hours he and his sons sat in front of the computer while one of them played a computer game, and how, yes, they would often discuss the strategy and going-ons of the game, but they would just as easily talk about other matters. And, occasionally, he says, they would Really Talk. And that one true pearl of a conversation made all those hours spent in each other’s company talking about the gaming details worth it.
Last week Tammy sent me this text in an email:
“One thing that's been going through my head - probably in response to your ideas about communication, is the use of media to create dialogue. We hear so much bad about TV, but I find that it can be an important source for conversation-starters. For instance, if we watch a show where we see aggression, I might toss out a comment, "Wow, that seemed like childish way for so-and-so to handle that - what do you think?" Or if we see a show where someone is drunk, I can point out how terribly they are embarrassing themselves. Some of the reality shows are the best for this, when you see people behaving rather than acting.”
When she wrote this, I immediately thought of that father a long time ago, speaking exactly the same sentiments. And, if you had asked me what I thought about this ten months ago, previous to our household acquiring broadband Internet access, I’d probably have said they were “talking things pretty” (a nice polite German expression for BS). Now, I am not sure what I think, now that we have broadband access.
For in our family, we are constantly talking about something we recently heard in a podcast or webcast (e.g. on
creativity), or some information on blog (Nomad Son’s
blog), or some film we watched on YouTube (
here and
here), or some aspect of a game they are playing (experience points, quests, armour, dungeons, guest houses). Since we don’t have a television (yet), most of our exposure to pop culture is derived from music (here and here), or movies (
here, when the films are finally are out on DVDs), or through all of the fantastic things we discovered over the Internet (
here,
here, or
here).
Some of all of this is exciting. Some of it is very dubious in nature. We are all just treading water here, aren’t we? It is all just such a large grey zone when it comes to the different forms of media and their influences on our society and our relationships to particular persons. How do we find the Middle Way in a society saturated in a surplus of information and multi-channels of knowledge exchange?